Coffee chats – Recipe for a great morning

I am a firm believer in mornings. Even the mornings I’d rather be sleeping, I still manage to get my booty up to embrace the day and get shit done.

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My Recipe for a good morning:

  • Wake up when the sun wakes up- there is something so magical about rising with the sun. Feeling the first rays of the mornings and listening to the birds chirp is the first thing you have to do in order to feel like a fairy tale princess throughout the day.
  • Drink your coffee in peace- can I get an AMEN?!
  • Eat a healthy and filling breakfast- A post on my go-to breakfast recipes will be here soon, but until then, I feel like you can never go wrong with an omelette (or as I like to call them, egg tacos), veggie packed hash browns, or a fruity smoothie.
  • Listen to a motivational podcast or some fun music to get you in the mood for a productive day while brushing your teeth and doing your hair. A list of my favorite podcasts can be found here (a revised list is coming soon, too!)
  • Wake up sleeping toddler and give her a big cuddle and go on with yo bad self the rest of the day

WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE THINGS TO DO TO ENSURE YOU HAVE A GREAT START TO YOUR DAY? I’d love to hear them! Also, if you’re wanting a night time routine post, let me know in the comments!

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Coffee, self portraits, and a mom confession

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Today I needed a mommy timeout.

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Aspen woke up on the wrong side of the bed. She was fussy and clingy, and very irritable (not sick). I would look at her the wrong way and she would start screaming and crying. I would try to brush my teeth, and she would be pulling on my shirt telling me, “NO” while hitting me. If I wasn’t holding her in my arms, she was mad.

Aspen’s love language during her early years is clearly Physical Touch. I have acknowledged this for a while now (If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages, I highly suggest you do! It helps all relationships, not just marriages). She needs to be touching, skin to skin, in order to do nearly anything. When she wakes up in the morning, she requests to cuddle for the first ten minutes of her day. Throughout the day her hands are always close to mine, and in the evenings she will not close her eyes without me keeping near. As for me, physical touch is not my forte. I actually can’t stand it. I have never been a hugger (unless hugs from my mom?), and I like to keep my distance from people. I don’t like it, and I never have. BUT, motherhood is calling me to learn how to like it.

Long story short, I raised my voice several times throughout the day. Actually, no, I YELLED several times throughout the day. Finally, towards the end, I had to sit back and think about how I was handling this situation. She is a toddler, I am an adult. I have known for a while that physical touch helps her relax. I also see that yelling has done nothing except make her more upset. Eventually, after a quick little mommy timeout, I changed my attitude and went to love and cuddle my emotionally vulnerable toddler. We are all entitled to a few bad days. And it definitely helps to have a mom who can *eventually* be self aware and help you get through your emotions.

Moms, fathers, grandparents, siblings, wife, and husbands, I encourage you all to pick up The Five Love Languages and find out how you can love your dear ones better today.


As for self portraits- I think it is something so wonderful to be able to document your daily life. It’s something no one in the past has been able to do to this extent before. As technology evolves, history does too. Each physical photograph is a documentation of our lives that someone will someday find. In a selfie, and narcissistic perceived world, take time to document your emotions and your actions, not just your looks.


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MOMMY AND ME SESSION with Mandie Medeiros Photography + weaning

Warning: if you’re sensitive to moms nursing past age 1, redirect now to Mandie’s website here 

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Mommy and Me sessions hold such a special place in my heart. Maybe it’s because I used to be the one behind the lens, maybe it’s because it captures such a beautiful essence of motherhood, or maybe because it’s just a lovely time to get updates photos of mommy and baby while they look put together. No matter the reason though, mommy and me pictures are incredibly valuable and the perfect gifts for moms on Mothers Day.

Aspen and I had such a great experience with Mandie Medeiros Photography. She was easy to talk to, great at communicating, funny, knows her shit, and is a hybrid photographer (which is freaking awesome and rare around here). If you’re looking for a local photographer, I highly recommend her. Her website is here

*Also, I never intended to breast feed this long. Three years ago, I said 6 months was my goal. Then it went to a year. THEN it went to 18 months. Now, we just hit two years and honestly, I loved each and every second of it, but I feel like we are both ready to let go of this time together. Breast feeding is such a cool, nutritional, empowering, and incredibly humbling experience, and I have zero regrets of holding out this long. I know some find it odd that she’s two and just now weaning, but honestly, it worked really well for our family. It was convenient, and Aspen and I loved that special time together where I was able to provide for her from my own body. Anyway, long story short, we are now beginning the weaning process, and although it makes me so sad (that’s the last thing that links her to infancy and giving it up hurts my heart), but part of me also wants to rejoice and say, “HELL YES, FINALLLYYYY!”.*

Cleaning essentials in the Beck home

Having a clean home is so improtant to me, but sharing a home with a toddler, a dog that sheds, and a husband, does not make cleaning an easy task. Not in the slightest. Actually, it can get so difficult some days that I have to give myself some grace and remind myself that my worth is not defined by how clean my home is. Down bellow I have reasonable cleaning schedule, and the products I use for it.

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EVERYDAY

  • Pick up toys before nap and before bed at night (I do make Aspen help).
  • Make beds
  • Wipe all surface areas after use. For this, I use Method’s All Purpose cleaner
  • Rinse off dishes and put in dish washer
  • Spray Febrese’s Heavy Duty spray on the couch
  • Spray Method’s Shower spray in the shower after each use

EVERY OTHER DAY

  • Vacuum all the floors, including the tile
  • Run the dishwasher

ONE TO TWICE A WEEK

  • Mop
  • Wipe down appliances
  • clean bathrooms
  • Do the laundry

I know this seems like a lot, but I promise you it isn’t. I guarentee that if you follow this list, a deep clean is not necessary nearly as often. This schedule will keep your mind sane, and your home manageable. Give it a try one week and let me know how it goes!

**All products displayed in images above (except the sea shells) can be purchased at Target.**

Gardening days

To me, there is nothing more important than to let your child freely explore the earth. As Maria Montessori said, “Let the children be free; encourage them; let them run outside when it is raining; let them remove their shoes when they find a puddle of water; and when the grass of the meadows is wet with dew, let them run on it and trample it with their bare feet; let them rest peacefully when a tree invites them to sleep beneath its shade; let them shout and laugh when the sun wakes them in the morning.”

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we’ve been meaning to check out the community garden, but have been so buy with travels and work and trying to get a nap time routine down, that we haven’t found the time. Until now, that is. We live in a pretty small and quaint half coastal/ half southern town along the emerald coast in Florida. I honestly didn’t think the community was big enough for a community garden center, but it apparently is. Because the Mary Esther Gardens was not only flourishing with wonderful vegetables and herbs, but also much larger that I had anticipated.

I let Aspen roam the garden without me hovering. In my opinion, a child should have unorganized play outdoors without an adult hovering over them for at least an hour a day. And that is what we did here. I brought little fruit packets and soft granola bars for us to munch on while she explored all of the plants. Watching the wheels spin in her head was absolutely miraculous. I think that’s one of my favorite parts of motherhood: watching her take it all in.

Today I encourage all of you parents to stop what you’re doing and take your child outside. It’ll do wonders with their imagination, their behavior, AND their naps 😉 .