Family time in Seaside

Guys, I freaking love my life.

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My life is far from perfect. I have really bad days, I get frustrated with my daughter, mad at my husband, make a terrible meal, cry myself to sleep, and ocassionally feel like I’m falling into a black hole like any other normal person out there. But I also feel on top of the world and in total bliss while raising such an easy going child, a hubsnad that goes out of his way to please, cooking bomb ass meals, and frolicking in the grass in a coastal town. Life is rough, and life is great. We all go through so many emotions just on a day to day basis, but please, even on the Black Hole days, remember how much you really love life, and how much life really loves you.


This dress was thrifted (for $8!) but you can find a similar here and here. My sandals can also be found here.

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Spring in 30A with Pink Blush

30A is my favorite place along the Emerald Coast. Between the shops, the food, the pretty southern homes, the plenty of parks, and the beach near by, it is undoubtedly the most perfect southern town in my mind. 30A is the type of place that makes me want to live here forever.

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We spent the weekend in Seaside, which is a small coastal town along Florida’s highway 30A. It is one of the sweetest and most quaint little towns I have ever been to. There are numerous food trucks, pizzarias, coffee shops, gelato shops, and local restaurants. In Seaside, everyone has come to the realization that cars are for losers. Instead, nearly everyone there rides beach cruisers to get to their destination. I have never been so in love with a town in my life (well, I mean, Sandpoint Idaho is also a personal favorite).

Because I was traveling for Valentines day, Scott and I decided to delay our date to Seaside until the weekend. We woke up early, Scott made a large breakfast filled with bacon, sausage, eggs, and fruit, and we packed our bags to spend the day on 30A. We first went to one of the many green grass parks and sat by the water fountain while playing tag with Aspen. Afterwards we walked further into town and ate some gelato, and eventually made our way to the historical and locally famous church. We let Aspen let loose and play in the grass before we started our trek back home.

For me personally, dates do not have to be elaborate or expensive. I much more appreciate some quality time with family in a gorgeous area, taking in the views and good weather with my two favorite people in the world.


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Thank you so much Pink Blush Maternity for influencing this post. 

Sunday Coffee Chats vol.3

Today’s Coffee Chat is about why I love waking up early, and why you should too!

Waking up early is one of my favorite things about my routine. Aspen typically wakes up aroung 7-8am, but I find it incredibly beneficial to my mental health to start my day an hour or two ahead of hers. So each night, as I set my alarm, I think about what time I want her to wake up and what events we have planned for the day ahead. Depending on the day, I will wake up 1-2 hours ahead of her. Why? So I can have some much needed alone time before waking her up. Here are some of the things I do before getting Aspen out of bed:

  1. Get ready (aka- brush teeth, do hair, and put on clothes) before the child/anyone wakes up! This is so important, because the moment Aspen wakes up I am resorted to cuddling for the next half an hour.
  2. Drink a cup of coffee in silence. Oh friends, this is probably my favorite thing in the world. Sipping a cup of joe in silence with no toddler pulling at my clothes, screaming “mommy!” is the most magical part of my morning.
  3. Listen to podcasts or YouTube videos. I am a sucker for a good webinar or podcast on a subject that I’m interested in. The only time I ever feel that I have for these things are either first thing in the morning or during nap time. So I try to squeeze them in the first part of my day. Next week I will be going over some of my favorite podcasts, so stay tuned!
  4. Go outdoors! I have a few flowers and herbs in our front yard. There are few things that bring me as much peace as going outside, coffee in hand, as I water or harvest them while the birds chirp. If you have a porch, I suggest you take your breakfast and drink your coffee/OJ while breathing in the fresh air. And if you have not started a small floral or herbal garden yet, I HIGHLY recommend you do so.

I know it is hard waking up earlier than need be, but I promise once you get into the routine it will be well worth it. Just imagine how much more you can get done in your day and how much more you will be motivated it you spent the first hour or two to yourself in peace. I used to wake up right before I was needed at my job or school, but once I started this habit I have felt so much more accomplished and so much happier at the end of the day. And you know what? My family notices too. I find it so important as a mom to have a few hours of silence and a bit to learn or work on projects before our little love wakes up. So tonight, set your alarm for a little bit earlier, and try to stick with it.

Coffee Chat Sunday vol.2

HAPPY SUNDAY, FRIENDS! I hope you have had a great week, a better weekend, and are anticipating another fantastic upcoming week. Today is #2 of the Coffee Chat Sunday series, and I am so excited to be sharing my thoughts with you.

Today’s topic: (my) kid(s) and technology

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Yup, this is real life. 

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My face every time I don’t get to drink coffee in peace.

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But, by golly, I love this kid.


Ready for this? Okay, here we go….

First of all, there is NO proper way to raise a child. Every child, mom, dad, household, and circumstance is different, and what I do in my journey of motherhood may not be a good fit for you and your journey, and that’s OK. But I do want to go over my thoughts on technology in my own home with my little family, and I ask that no one takes any of this personally, because, again, we are all different.

So, regrettably, I am the biggest hypocrite when it comes to this topic.

I love to act like the “crunchy, no TV, all outdoor play, super enthusiastically involved mom”. And the truth is, I want to be that mom. I also am that mom on the occasion. But at the same time, I work, I write a blog, I’m trying to plan a few other things (I’ll let you all know later on!) for my life and business. I am also a wife, a home maker, a chef, a friend, a daughter, a sister, and my gosh, I am also human and enjoy a bit of free time! So how do I manage all of this while also staying true to what I believe in when it comes to limiting screen time? Well, that becomes tricky.

Why? Because each day is different.

I’ll admit, days it’s raining, Aspen gets a lot of screen time. Day’s I’m sick, we watch movies all day. Day’s I have deadlines with companies and shops that I am collaborating with, she ends up watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Bubble Guppies for a while. But how I try to control and limit all of this is:

  1. I put her first. If she asks to go outside, I take a break and go outside.
  2. I try to prioritize and plan out my work. A great way to do this is to make a list the night before, and wake up at least an hour before the kiddo to get a head start on the work before she wakes up. I also like to make sure my work schedule is  consistent for the week, so I can plan around that.
  3. We have dance parties and read-athons. I try so hard after each episode to push pause and let her move around or read a book, or color in her coloring book so she’s not just watching TV.
  4. We go on daily walks, no matter what to break up the day, talk, and enjoy the sun for a bit (weather permitting)
  5. I also make it about me. This sounds narcissistic, but I promise it’s for the benefit of both of us. When I say that I make it about me, I mean I like to think about the outdoor and fun activities I love to do, and figure out a way to get Aspen involved in it as well. This way, I am more likely to be connected to the adventure and disconnected with the rest of the world. Examples are our beach days and trail walking days. These are things both Aspen and I love that gets us out of the house and involved in nature together. I try to plan a fun day like this once to twice a week.
  6. And lastly is to not feel like the worst mom in the world for letting her watch a little bit of TV, because at the end of the day, I am making sure she is still having a quality, fun, and present childhood filled with good memories, and it’s okay to balance technology in that as long as it is a balance.

Guys. I try so hard to be a perfect mom, and I fall short daily. But that’s okay. God did not make us to be perfect. He made us to rely on Him. And every time I am reminded that I am sinful in nature and that I don’t have a handle on everything, is when I am reminded to lean on God’s mercy and grace. Which I think is the point all along.

Keep on keepin’ on mama, you’ve got this.

Wine not Wednesday vol.1

Adding on to Sunday’s coffee chats, I will also be starting up another series called “Wine not Wednesday”. On these days, I will be going over other hot topics in my life. These may range from podcasts I listen to, conversations about marriage, motherhood, my dog, and so much more!

Today’s topic: How I’m currently dealing with tantrums

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Today I am drinking Target’s $5 California Roots Chardonnay

Okay, I don’t know about you guys, but Aspen was a perfect baby. She slept through the night by three weeks old, was never fussy, never had troubles nursing or gaining weight, and was all over PERFECT. And then toddlerhood hit. And don’t get me wrong, in terms of toddlerhood, she really isn’t that bad (yet), but I will admit that there have been numerous days that I’ve had to hit my knees praying because I was at a complete loss with my parenting.

Mama, I get it. And I promise you are not alone in this.

Whenever I offer advice, it’s not because I am an expert. I am so beyond far from being a perfect mom, but I will on the occasion share what has worked for me and what has not.

So, let’s talk tantrums.

Recently Aspen has been entering the tantrum phase. You’d think I would be used to this by now, with the years I spent in childcare and all. But no, it is SO different as a full time mama. There are days I have to put her in her room to calm down, and then I turn right around to do the same for me. I LITERALLY HAVE TO PUT MYSELF IN A MOMMY TIMEOUT to calm down so I don’t overreact to the fact that my daughter is just being a toddler.

Keep in mind, over reacting and reacting are two very separate things.

So what do I do when I go to get my upset toddler out of time out? I get on her level, look her dead in the eyes, and tell her that I lover her no matter what. And then I proceed to tell her (calmly, might I add), that although I love her unconditionally, that does not mean that I will excuse her behavior. So then I remind her of what she did to deserve that time out in the first place, and then I make her repeat “I’m sorry mommy. I promise I won’t do ________ again. I love you”. And then I give her a hug and kiss, and we go on with our day.

Y’all, motherhood can be hard. I mean, it is such a beautiful journey and I love every second of it, but that does not mean it doesn’t kick my ass some days. Hang in there, you’re not alone. And I promise I am praying for you and your little family’s journey.

Sadie Ann and The Lupine Lady

It’s a little late into the New Year, which I appologize for, but here I am again! Welcoming 2018 with open arms, as if it’s an old friend I am embracing for the first time in years. This year, no doubt, will be dificult. Our family will be going through many changes in this season. Fortunately, I am naturally an optimist as well as believe in a good God, and therefor I KNOW it will be a phenominal year, despite all of the changes.

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We spent Christmas and the New Year in Arizona with loved ones, which was an absolute BLAST! And within the first three weeks of 2018, we have managed to finish up decorating my study area, quit my job at the church (although still volunteering once a month in the nursery), decrease my hours at the gym, and Scott has been hired on at the Oil Fields in North Dakota, and will be leaving to work in late February. Aspen has been signed up for soccer, and once warmer weather hits our part of northern Florida, I will presume our own little “home school at the beach”. Scott and I are also in the works of a few other big projects, but wont be releasing details on that for a few more months… so stay tuned!

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As for my little blog, I will continue to expose my thoughts, life, and wardrobe on here, although posts may or may not be slower to publish, considering current circumstances. I am also in the process of brainstorming beautiful content to take The Lupine Lady to the next level.

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Thank you to all who have taken the time to follow our family’s journey, and I can’t wait to share more of what life has in store for us!


 

Dress: Old Navy // Atlas: Hobby Lobby, similar here // Desk: Target // Vases: thrifted, similar here

4 years married

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YUP.

July 5th marked four years with this dude. And let me tell you, as much as I love him and our marriage, and do not regret the decision to get married… I undoubtedly underestimated the difficulties marriage would bring. But you know what? We’re making it through it. Four years of laughs, cries, joy, fights. vacations, sorrow, anger, bliss, sleep deprivation, and overfilling hearts. Being married at 19 isn’t the ideal circumstance for anyone, but we continue to fight through those struggles and embrace the love between us, however hard that may be sometimes 😉

 

we celebrated our anniversarry in Sandpoint, Idaho at his family’s lake house. Pictures of that to come!