Sunday Coffee Chats vol.3

Today’s Coffee Chat is about why I love waking up early, and why you should too!

Waking up early is one of my favorite things about my routine. Aspen typically wakes up aroung 7-8am, but I find it incredibly beneficial to my mental health to start my day an hour or two ahead of hers. So each night, as I set my alarm, I think about what time I want her to wake up and what events we have planned for the day ahead. Depending on the day, I will wake up 1-2 hours ahead of her. Why? So I can have some much needed alone time before waking her up. Here are some of the things I do before getting Aspen out of bed:

  1. Get ready (aka- brush teeth, do hair, and put on clothes) before the child/anyone wakes up! This is so important, because the moment Aspen wakes up I am resorted to cuddling for the next half an hour.
  2. Drink a cup of coffee in silence. Oh friends, this is probably my favorite thing in the world. Sipping a cup of joe in silence with no toddler pulling at my clothes, screaming “mommy!” is the most magical part of my morning.
  3. Listen to podcasts or YouTube videos. I am a sucker for a good webinar or podcast on a subject that I’m interested in. The only time I ever feel that I have for these things are either first thing in the morning or during nap time. So I try to squeeze them in the first part of my day. Next week I will be going over some of my favorite podcasts, so stay tuned!
  4. Go outdoors! I have a few flowers and herbs in our front yard. There are few things that bring me as much peace as going outside, coffee in hand, as I water or harvest them while the birds chirp. If you have a porch, I suggest you take your breakfast and drink your coffee/OJ while breathing in the fresh air. And if you have not started a small floral or herbal garden yet, I HIGHLY recommend you do so.

I know it is hard waking up earlier than need be, but I promise once you get into the routine it will be well worth it. Just imagine how much more you can get done in your day and how much more you will be motivated it you spent the first hour or two to yourself in peace. I used to wake up right before I was needed at my job or school, but once I started this habit I have felt so much more accomplished and so much happier at the end of the day. And you know what? My family notices too. I find it so important as a mom to have a few hours of silence and a bit to learn or work on projects before our little love wakes up. So tonight, set your alarm for a little bit earlier, and try to stick with it.

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Coffee Chat Sunday vol.2

HAPPY SUNDAY, FRIENDS! I hope you have had a great week, a better weekend, and are anticipating another fantastic upcoming week. Today is #2 of the Coffee Chat Sunday series, and I am so excited to be sharing my thoughts with you.

Today’s topic: (my) kid(s) and technology

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Yup, this is real life. 

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My face every time I don’t get to drink coffee in peace.

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But, by golly, I love this kid.


Ready for this? Okay, here we go….

First of all, there is NO proper way to raise a child. Every child, mom, dad, household, and circumstance is different, and what I do in my journey of motherhood may not be a good fit for you and your journey, and that’s OK. But I do want to go over my thoughts on technology in my own home with my little family, and I ask that no one takes any of this personally, because, again, we are all different.

So, regrettably, I am the biggest hypocrite when it comes to this topic.

I love to act like the “crunchy, no TV, all outdoor play, super enthusiastically involved mom”. And the truth is, I want to be that mom. I also am that mom on the occasion. But at the same time, I work, I write a blog, I’m trying to plan a few other things (I’ll let you all know later on!) for my life and business. I am also a wife, a home maker, a chef, a friend, a daughter, a sister, and my gosh, I am also human and enjoy a bit of free time! So how do I manage all of this while also staying true to what I believe in when it comes to limiting screen time? Well, that becomes tricky.

Why? Because each day is different.

I’ll admit, days it’s raining, Aspen gets a lot of screen time. Day’s I’m sick, we watch movies all day. Day’s I have deadlines with companies and shops that I am collaborating with, she ends up watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Bubble Guppies for a while. But how I try to control and limit all of this is:

  1. I put her first. If she asks to go outside, I take a break and go outside.
  2. I try to prioritize and plan out my work. A great way to do this is to make a list the night before, and wake up at least an hour before the kiddo to get a head start on the work before she wakes up. I also like to make sure my work schedule is  consistent for the week, so I can plan around that.
  3. We have dance parties and read-athons. I try so hard after each episode to push pause and let her move around or read a book, or color in her coloring book so she’s not just watching TV.
  4. We go on daily walks, no matter what to break up the day, talk, and enjoy the sun for a bit (weather permitting)
  5. I also make it about me. This sounds narcissistic, but I promise it’s for the benefit of both of us. When I say that I make it about me, I mean I like to think about the outdoor and fun activities I love to do, and figure out a way to get Aspen involved in it as well. This way, I am more likely to be connected to the adventure and disconnected with the rest of the world. Examples are our beach days and trail walking days. These are things both Aspen and I love that gets us out of the house and involved in nature together. I try to plan a fun day like this once to twice a week.
  6. And lastly is to not feel like the worst mom in the world for letting her watch a little bit of TV, because at the end of the day, I am making sure she is still having a quality, fun, and present childhood filled with good memories, and it’s okay to balance technology in that as long as it is a balance.

Guys. I try so hard to be a perfect mom, and I fall short daily. But that’s okay. God did not make us to be perfect. He made us to rely on Him. And every time I am reminded that I am sinful in nature and that I don’t have a handle on everything, is when I am reminded to lean on God’s mercy and grace. Which I think is the point all along.

Keep on keepin’ on mama, you’ve got this.

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So, I don’t know if anyone has noticed yet, but blue is my favorite color…

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And motherhood is my favorite look

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Today I hope you find joy. Joy in your relationships, joy in your work, joy in your heart, and joy in your circumstance.

The last few days it felt like Spring, and as you all know, I was SO excited. Spring is my favorite season and I look forward to it all year long. I know most appreciate Fall the most, and I get it. Between the pies, the crisp air, and pumpkin spice everything, I can understand how this particular season could warm the heart. But for me personally, Spring is it. I love the warm sun and fresh blooms and feeling like everything is new. But after a couple of days of the blissful feeling that Spring was arriving, our part of Florida decided to change it’s mind and go back to cooler temps. I could be irritated, but instead, I remind myself that once the Summer hits with all of it’s intense heat and humidity I will be missing these days where I could wear a light coat or cardigan. So choose joy, friends, even if it’s not ideal. I don’t know your circumstances. It could be so much worse than my irritation with the delay in weather, but whatever it may be, fill your heart with joy and push through it.


PS, how cute is my kid in these pictures?? Thanks to the babe for taking them!

Sadie’s Look: Pants are from H&M // shirt is from Old Navy // Shoes are old, similar here //  denim

Wine not Wednesday vol.1

Adding on to Sunday’s coffee chats, I will also be starting up another series called “Wine not Wednesday”. On these days, I will be going over other hot topics in my life. These may range from podcasts I listen to, conversations about marriage, motherhood, my dog, and so much more!

Today’s topic: How I’m currently dealing with tantrums

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Today I am drinking Target’s $5 California Roots Chardonnay

Okay, I don’t know about you guys, but Aspen was a perfect baby. She slept through the night by three weeks old, was never fussy, never had troubles nursing or gaining weight, and was all over PERFECT. And then toddlerhood hit. And don’t get me wrong, in terms of toddlerhood, she really isn’t that bad (yet), but I will admit that there have been numerous days that I’ve had to hit my knees praying because I was at a complete loss with my parenting.

Mama, I get it. And I promise you are not alone in this.

Whenever I offer advice, it’s not because I am an expert. I am so beyond far from being a perfect mom, but I will on the occasion share what has worked for me and what has not.

So, let’s talk tantrums.

Recently Aspen has been entering the tantrum phase. You’d think I would be used to this by now, with the years I spent in childcare and all. But no, it is SO different as a full time mama. There are days I have to put her in her room to calm down, and then I turn right around to do the same for me. I LITERALLY HAVE TO PUT MYSELF IN A MOMMY TIMEOUT to calm down so I don’t overreact to the fact that my daughter is just being a toddler.

Keep in mind, over reacting and reacting are two very separate things.

So what do I do when I go to get my upset toddler out of time out? I get on her level, look her dead in the eyes, and tell her that I lover her no matter what. And then I proceed to tell her (calmly, might I add), that although I love her unconditionally, that does not mean that I will excuse her behavior. So then I remind her of what she did to deserve that time out in the first place, and then I make her repeat “I’m sorry mommy. I promise I won’t do ________ again. I love you”. And then I give her a hug and kiss, and we go on with our day.

Y’all, motherhood can be hard. I mean, it is such a beautiful journey and I love every second of it, but that does not mean it doesn’t kick my ass some days. Hang in there, you’re not alone. And I promise I am praying for you and your little family’s journey.

Our fist day of Spring weather with Pink Blush

Fun fact about me: my favorite season is Spring. Not only is it the season I was born in, and became a mother in, but it also brings back memmories of florals, travels, warm sunny days, and the smell of fresh blooms. I could honestly go on and on about how much I love this season, but instead I will go over how Little Aspen and I celebrated the change in weather today.

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First of all, today was also Super Bowl Sunday. Scott spent the day prepparing hot wings and other appetizers to bring with him to the Super Bowl party while Aspen and I went to the store to buy yarn (making a gift for an expecting friend), then drove to Old Navy to get some Spring time essentials (cute sandals and floppy hats, anyone??). Afterwards, Scott joined us at the Navarre Park to catch some rays, watch our little one explore, and snap some photos. When we got home, Aspen and I went on a long stroll to soak up the rest of the bright sun, then made our way home to prepare for the Super Bowl.

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Friends, today was so lovely. I can’t wait for transition in season! We are so blessed to live in a place that gets an early Spring. What’s your favorite season, and why?


Shop our looks

SADIE’S OUTFIT: My dress was a gift from Pink Blush Maternity // Shoes are old, similar here

ASPEN’S OUTFIT: Dress is from Old Navy // Shoes are from Target 

** thank you Pink Blush Maternity for collaborating with this post**

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Every day casual

As a mama, I like to be comfortable. Each day I am bending down to grab toys, giving piggy backs, kissing boo boos, cleaning up messes, and giving baths. It’s not for the faint of heart, nor is it glamorous. But, being a woman, I also like to look presentable and on the occasion, good, even while I am mommin’.

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Aspen, while running around outside, fell on some cement and scraped her knee. Immediate she looked up to me, asking me to pick her up. I naturally scooped her into my arms as she buried her face into my shoulder and whispered, “I oh-tay mama”. And instantly my heart melted.

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Guys, motherhood is the sweetest. I mean, good Lord, how could it not be when your kid is this dang cute? Don’t get me wrong, she drives me mad some days (basically every day after 6pm, especially when dad isn’t home to help). There have been days where I have had to put her into her room while I hit my knees praying for grace, because sometimes parenting is hard. But at the end of the day, when I look at her sleeping face, I could not imagine a life so perfect. I wouldn’t trade this for anything (even to go to the bathroom by myself).


Sadie’s Outfit

Top is from target // denim is from American Eagle // Flats are from Charolette Russe // Similar necklase can be found here //

Aspen’s Outfit

Dress and knee high socks are from Old Navy // flats are from Target // Similar hair accessory here

 

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Cleaning essentials in the Beck home

Having a clean home is so improtant to me, but sharing a home with a toddler, a dog that sheds, and a husband, does not make cleaning an easy task. Not in the slightest. Actually, it can get so difficult some days that I have to give myself some grace and remind myself that my worth is not defined by how clean my home is. Down bellow I have reasonable cleaning schedule, and the products I use for it.

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EVERYDAY

  • Pick up toys before nap and before bed at night (I do make Aspen help).
  • Make beds
  • Wipe all surface areas after use. For this, I use Method’s All Purpose cleaner
  • Rinse off dishes and put in dish washer
  • Spray Febrese’s Heavy Duty spray on the couch
  • Spray Method’s Shower spray in the shower after each use

EVERY OTHER DAY

  • Vacuum all the floors, including the tile
  • Run the dishwasher

ONE TO TWICE A WEEK

  • Mop
  • Wipe down appliances
  • clean bathrooms
  • Do the laundry

I know this seems like a lot, but I promise you it isn’t. I guarentee that if you follow this list, a deep clean is not necessary nearly as often. This schedule will keep your mind sane, and your home manageable. Give it a try one week and let me know how it goes!

**All products displayed in images above (except the sea shells) can be purchased at Target.**