Coffee, self portraits, and a mom confession

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Today I needed a mommy timeout.

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Aspen woke up on the wrong side of the bed. She was fussy and clingy, and very irritable (not sick). I would look at her the wrong way and she would start screaming and crying. I would try to brush my teeth, and she would be pulling on my shirt telling me, “NO” while hitting me. If I wasn’t holding her in my arms, she was mad.

Aspen’s love language during her early years is clearly Physical Touch. I have acknowledged this for a while now (If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages, I highly suggest you do! It helps all relationships, not just marriages). She needs to be touching, skin to skin, in order to do nearly anything. When she wakes up in the morning, she requests to cuddle for the first ten minutes of her day. Throughout the day her hands are always close to mine, and in the evenings she will not close her eyes without me keeping near. As for me, physical touch is not my forte. I actually can’t stand it. I have never been a hugger (unless hugs from my mom?), and I like to keep my distance from people. I don’t like it, and I never have. BUT, motherhood is calling me to learn how to like it.

Long story short, I raised my voice several times throughout the day. Actually, no, I YELLED several times throughout the day. Finally, towards the end, I had to sit back and think about how I was handling this situation. She is a toddler, I am an adult. I have known for a while that physical touch helps her relax. I also see that yelling has done nothing except make her more upset. Eventually, after a quick little mommy timeout, I changed my attitude and went to love and cuddle my emotionally vulnerable toddler. We are all entitled to a few bad days. And it definitely helps to have a mom who can *eventually* be self aware and help you get through your emotions.

Moms, fathers, grandparents, siblings, wife, and husbands, I encourage you all to pick up The Five Love Languages and find out how you can love your dear ones better today.


As for self portraits- I think it is something so wonderful to be able to document your daily life. It’s something no one in the past has been able to do to this extent before. As technology evolves, history does too. Each physical photograph is a documentation of our lives that someone will someday find. In a selfie, and narcissistic perceived world, take time to document your emotions and your actions, not just your looks.


This is one of my favorite button down blouses that I’ve owned. It is soft, light weight, and fits so well! Shop it here

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MOMMY AND ME SESSION with Mandie Medeiros Photography + weaning

Warning: if you’re sensitive to moms nursing past age 1, redirect now to Mandie’s website here 

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Mommy and Me sessions hold such a special place in my heart. Maybe it’s because I used to be the one behind the lens, maybe it’s because it captures such a beautiful essence of motherhood, or maybe because it’s just a lovely time to get updates photos of mommy and baby while they look put together. No matter the reason though, mommy and me pictures are incredibly valuable and the perfect gifts for moms on Mothers Day.

Aspen and I had such a great experience with Mandie Medeiros Photography. She was easy to talk to, great at communicating, funny, knows her shit, and is a hybrid photographer (which is freaking awesome and rare around here). If you’re looking for a local photographer, I highly recommend her. Her website is here

*Also, I never intended to breast feed this long. Three years ago, I said 6 months was my goal. Then it went to a year. THEN it went to 18 months. Now, we just hit two years and honestly, I loved each and every second of it, but I feel like we are both ready to let go of this time together. Breast feeding is such a cool, nutritional, empowering, and incredibly humbling experience, and I have zero regrets of holding out this long. I know some find it odd that she’s two and just now weaning, but honestly, it worked really well for our family. It was convenient, and Aspen and I loved that special time together where I was able to provide for her from my own body. Anyway, long story short, we are now beginning the weaning process, and although it makes me so sad (that’s the last thing that links her to infancy and giving it up hurts my heart), but part of me also wants to rejoice and say, “HELL YES, FINALLLYYYY!”.*

Park walks and a recap on Easter

Friends in the north, I’m apologizing in advance for the warm pictures. If it’s any consolation, the humidity has hit and there is no hiding the sweat.

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WHAT A WEEK! Am I right, or am I right? I hope you all had a lovely Easter spent with loved ones, good food, and long lasting memories.

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We spent the holiday hunting for eggs, going to a memorable church service (those in the area- if you haven’t gone to a service at Momentum, contact me so we can go together!), feasting with great friends, going to the beach while the littles had their first real swim on the season, and later on had an impromptu moms night out (nope, definitely not sharing pictures from that (; )

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Overall, we had such a fun Easter. It is a complete game changer when you spend the holidays with an awesome and absolutely adorable toddler, good friends, delicious food, and nice weather. We are so fortunate to have met the people we have met, and to be where we are now. In other news, Aspen and I are finally settling into a routine since Scott’s departure. This is helping so much with mine and Aspen’s sanity.

We spend our days literally working or playing. When we’re not at mamas work, we are at the beach, at a friends house, or at home playing with blocks and coloring. We wake up around 6am, eat a healthy breakfast, spend a few hours at work, go home to cuddle and/or take a nap, clean up the house, run errands, spend time outside, then come home to dinner and a movie before getting ready for bed. These are the good days, and i’m trying to soak them in. We won’t be here forever. We will move (eventually, hopefully), Aspen will grow, our friends will continue on, and our current will become past, and our adventures will become memories. This is a reminder to myself, as well as all who may read this- love your moments. Even the unbearable ones. Someday they will only be pictures in our heads of what life used to be like. So cherish them, hold them for another moment longer, and release them with a smile of content on your face.

THANK YOU again to Pink Blush Maternity for collaborating on this post. Guys, If you have not checked out their motherhood line, you are missing out. This dress can be found here .

As a side note, that hat was gifted by my grandma after she decided it wasn’t to her linking anymore. It’s now one of my favorite accessories. Somehow handed down “vintage” items are always my favorites. 

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Feminine LWD + Easter basket ideas

Everyone knows the LBD (little black dress) is something fierce. But this feminine loving mama is quite fond of the less poular LWD (little white dress) as well.

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This gorgeous dress is PERFECT to wear to Spring events like Easter, baby showers, and garden parties.

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And as a side note, taking pictures with my little minion is my absolute favorite. I promise the excitement and love in our eyes is NOT posed. This is how we feel/look/react to eachother 90% of the time (unless she’s in trouble or I’ve spent too much time editing pictures and she’s irritated with me)

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EASTER. Easter is coming up, and I will be the first to admit it is my favorite holiday. Christmas had always been the winner for me, but the past few years Easter (and it’s true meaning) has grown more and more on my heart. I love the spring time weather, the florals, the “everything is new” feeling, the femininity of it all, and the concept that we are all reborn through the resurrection of Christ. It’s such a beautiful and true concept that has touched my soul so much since becoming a mother that I cannot help but celebrate the spirit of Easter all year round. And let’s face it, the chocolates and light dresses are an added bonus.


This year, Easter will be a little different for our family. We will still be doing a community easter egg hunt, church service, and an eater basket filled with swim suits and beach towels, but unfortunately, we wont be celebrating it with Scott. It’s always hard on our hearts when we have to go a holiday without our dad and husband, but we know that there is a reason for each season in our life, and that we need to embrace this one, as well as all others in the future. I’m a firm believe that a positive mentality will always outshine a negative circumstance. So that is what we will do. We will embrace the seperation and use technology to our advantage, as well as look forward to the day we are together for an easter celebration.

ALSO, because I know people struggle with coming up with things to put in Easter baskets other than chocolate, I wanted to make a few suggestions:

I personally do a beach/ Summer themed basket. It typically includes a swim suit, beach towel, sunscreen, and beach or pool toys. Another idea is a garden themed basket. It would include seeds, soil, spring based books, and mini shovels and maybe rain boots. I also love the idea of an exploration basket. This one would have a magnifying glass, ant farm, books on bugs, animals, and plants. It would also have a sun hat and hiking boots.

Whatever you choose to pack in your childs basket, have fun with it and remember to include the true reason behind the holiday.


This year I am wearing Pink Blush for several ocassions. It’s hard not to when their dresses are catered to motherhood and femininity. One of the several ocassions is Easter and my good friend Shelby’s baby shower. This one in particular is such a light weight and detailed dress, and really ties into this years victorian revival trend.

*What are some things you all have planned for Easter?*

Family time in Seaside

Guys, I freaking love my life.

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My life is far from perfect. I have really bad days, I get frustrated with my daughter, mad at my husband, make a terrible meal, cry myself to sleep, and ocassionally feel like I’m falling into a black hole like any other normal person out there. But I also feel on top of the world and in total bliss while raising such an easy going child, a hubsnad that goes out of his way to please, cooking bomb ass meals, and frolicking in the grass in a coastal town. Life is rough, and life is great. We all go through so many emotions just on a day to day basis, but please, even on the Black Hole days, remember how much you really love life, and how much life really loves you.


This dress was thrifted (for $8!) but you can find a similar here and here. My sandals can also be found here.

Sunday Coffee Chats vol.3

Today’s Coffee Chat is about why I love waking up early, and why you should too!

Waking up early is one of my favorite things about my routine. Aspen typically wakes up aroung 7-8am, but I find it incredibly beneficial to my mental health to start my day an hour or two ahead of hers. So each night, as I set my alarm, I think about what time I want her to wake up and what events we have planned for the day ahead. Depending on the day, I will wake up 1-2 hours ahead of her. Why? So I can have some much needed alone time before waking her up. Here are some of the things I do before getting Aspen out of bed:

  1. Get ready (aka- brush teeth, do hair, and put on clothes) before the child/anyone wakes up! This is so important, because the moment Aspen wakes up I am resorted to cuddling for the next half an hour.
  2. Drink a cup of coffee in silence. Oh friends, this is probably my favorite thing in the world. Sipping a cup of joe in silence with no toddler pulling at my clothes, screaming “mommy!” is the most magical part of my morning.
  3. Listen to podcasts or YouTube videos. I am a sucker for a good webinar or podcast on a subject that I’m interested in. The only time I ever feel that I have for these things are either first thing in the morning or during nap time. So I try to squeeze them in the first part of my day. Next week I will be going over some of my favorite podcasts, so stay tuned!
  4. Go outdoors! I have a few flowers and herbs in our front yard. There are few things that bring me as much peace as going outside, coffee in hand, as I water or harvest them while the birds chirp. If you have a porch, I suggest you take your breakfast and drink your coffee/OJ while breathing in the fresh air. And if you have not started a small floral or herbal garden yet, I HIGHLY recommend you do so.

I know it is hard waking up earlier than need be, but I promise once you get into the routine it will be well worth it. Just imagine how much more you can get done in your day and how much more you will be motivated it you spent the first hour or two to yourself in peace. I used to wake up right before I was needed at my job or school, but once I started this habit I have felt so much more accomplished and so much happier at the end of the day. And you know what? My family notices too. I find it so important as a mom to have a few hours of silence and a bit to learn or work on projects before our little love wakes up. So tonight, set your alarm for a little bit earlier, and try to stick with it.

Coffee Chat Sunday vol.2

HAPPY SUNDAY, FRIENDS! I hope you have had a great week, a better weekend, and are anticipating another fantastic upcoming week. Today is #2 of the Coffee Chat Sunday series, and I am so excited to be sharing my thoughts with you.

Today’s topic: (my) kid(s) and technology

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Yup, this is real life. 

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My face every time I don’t get to drink coffee in peace.

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But, by golly, I love this kid.


Ready for this? Okay, here we go….

First of all, there is NO proper way to raise a child. Every child, mom, dad, household, and circumstance is different, and what I do in my journey of motherhood may not be a good fit for you and your journey, and that’s OK. But I do want to go over my thoughts on technology in my own home with my little family, and I ask that no one takes any of this personally, because, again, we are all different.

So, regrettably, I am the biggest hypocrite when it comes to this topic.

I love to act like the “crunchy, no TV, all outdoor play, super enthusiastically involved mom”. And the truth is, I want to be that mom. I also am that mom on the occasion. But at the same time, I work, I write a blog, I’m trying to plan a few other things (I’ll let you all know later on!) for my life and business. I am also a wife, a home maker, a chef, a friend, a daughter, a sister, and my gosh, I am also human and enjoy a bit of free time! So how do I manage all of this while also staying true to what I believe in when it comes to limiting screen time? Well, that becomes tricky.

Why? Because each day is different.

I’ll admit, days it’s raining, Aspen gets a lot of screen time. Day’s I’m sick, we watch movies all day. Day’s I have deadlines with companies and shops that I am collaborating with, she ends up watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Bubble Guppies for a while. But how I try to control and limit all of this is:

  1. I put her first. If she asks to go outside, I take a break and go outside.
  2. I try to prioritize and plan out my work. A great way to do this is to make a list the night before, and wake up at least an hour before the kiddo to get a head start on the work before she wakes up. I also like to make sure my work schedule is  consistent for the week, so I can plan around that.
  3. We have dance parties and read-athons. I try so hard after each episode to push pause and let her move around or read a book, or color in her coloring book so she’s not just watching TV.
  4. We go on daily walks, no matter what to break up the day, talk, and enjoy the sun for a bit (weather permitting)
  5. I also make it about me. This sounds narcissistic, but I promise it’s for the benefit of both of us. When I say that I make it about me, I mean I like to think about the outdoor and fun activities I love to do, and figure out a way to get Aspen involved in it as well. This way, I am more likely to be connected to the adventure and disconnected with the rest of the world. Examples are our beach days and trail walking days. These are things both Aspen and I love that gets us out of the house and involved in nature together. I try to plan a fun day like this once to twice a week.
  6. And lastly is to not feel like the worst mom in the world for letting her watch a little bit of TV, because at the end of the day, I am making sure she is still having a quality, fun, and present childhood filled with good memories, and it’s okay to balance technology in that as long as it is a balance.

Guys. I try so hard to be a perfect mom, and I fall short daily. But that’s okay. God did not make us to be perfect. He made us to rely on Him. And every time I am reminded that I am sinful in nature and that I don’t have a handle on everything, is when I am reminded to lean on God’s mercy and grace. Which I think is the point all along.

Keep on keepin’ on mama, you’ve got this.