HAPPY SUNDAY, FRIENDS! I hope you have had a great week, a better weekend, and are anticipating another fantastic upcoming week. Today is #2 of the Coffee Chat Sunday series, and I am so excited to be sharing my thoughts with you.
Today’s topic: (my) kid(s) and technology
Yup, this is real life.
My face every time I don’t get to drink coffee in peace.
But, by golly, I love this kid.
Ready for this? Okay, here we go….
First of all, there is NO proper way to raise a child. Every child, mom, dad, household, and circumstance is different, and what I do in my journey of motherhood may not be a good fit for you and your journey, and that’s OK. But I do want to go over my thoughts on technology in my own home with my little family, and I ask that no one takes any of this personally, because, again, we are all different.
So, regrettably, I am the biggest hypocrite when it comes to this topic.
I love to act like the “crunchy, no TV, all outdoor play, super enthusiastically involved mom”. And the truth is, I want to be that mom. I also am that mom on the occasion. But at the same time, I work, I write a blog, I’m trying to plan a few other things (I’ll let you all know later on!) for my life and business. I am also a wife, a home maker, a chef, a friend, a daughter, a sister, and my gosh, I am also human and enjoy a bit of free time! So how do I manage all of this while also staying true to what I believe in when it comes to limiting screen time? Well, that becomes tricky.
Why? Because each day is different.
I’ll admit, days it’s raining, Aspen gets a lot of screen time. Day’s I’m sick, we watch movies all day. Day’s I have deadlines with companies and shops that I am collaborating with, she ends up watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Bubble Guppies for a while. But how I try to control and limit all of this is:
- I put her first. If she asks to go outside, I take a break and go outside.
- I try to prioritize and plan out my work. A great way to do this is to make a list the night before, and wake up at least an hour before the kiddo to get a head start on the work before she wakes up. I also like to make sure my work schedule is consistent for the week, so I can plan around that.
- We have dance parties and read-athons. I try so hard after each episode to push pause and let her move around or read a book, or color in her coloring book so she’s not just watching TV.
- We go on daily walks, no matter what to break up the day, talk, and enjoy the sun for a bit (weather permitting)
- I also make it about me. This sounds narcissistic, but I promise it’s for the benefit of both of us. When I say that I make it about me, I mean I like to think about the outdoor and fun activities I love to do, and figure out a way to get Aspen involved in it as well. This way, I am more likely to be connected to the adventure and disconnected with the rest of the world. Examples are our beach days and trail walking days. These are things both Aspen and I love that gets us out of the house and involved in nature together. I try to plan a fun day like this once to twice a week.
- And lastly is to not feel like the worst mom in the world for letting her watch a little bit of TV, because at the end of the day, I am making sure she is still having a quality, fun, and present childhood filled with good memories, and it’s okay to balance technology in that as long as it is a balance.
Guys. I try so hard to be a perfect mom, and I fall short daily. But that’s okay. God did not make us to be perfect. He made us to rely on Him. And every time I am reminded that I am sinful in nature and that I don’t have a handle on everything, is when I am reminded to lean on God’s mercy and grace. Which I think is the point all along.
Keep on keepin’ on mama, you’ve got this.