Adding on to Sunday’s coffee chats, I will also be starting up another series called “Wine not Wednesday”. On these days, I will be going over other hot topics in my life. These may range from podcasts I listen to, conversations about marriage, motherhood, my dog, and so much more!
Today’s topic: How I’m currently dealing with tantrums
Today I am drinking Target’s $5 California Roots Chardonnay
Okay, I don’t know about you guys, but Aspen was a perfect baby. She slept through the night by three weeks old, was never fussy, never had troubles nursing or gaining weight, and was all over PERFECT. And then toddlerhood hit. And don’t get me wrong, in terms of toddlerhood, she really isn’t that bad (yet), but I will admit that there have been numerous days that I’ve had to hit my knees praying because I was at a complete loss with my parenting.
Mama, I get it. And I promise you are not alone in this.
Whenever I offer advice, it’s not because I am an expert. I am so beyond far from being a perfect mom, but I will on the occasion share what has worked for me and what has not.
So, let’s talk tantrums.
Recently Aspen has been entering the tantrum phase. You’d think I would be used to this by now, with the years I spent in childcare and all. But no, it is SO different as a full time mama. There are days I have to put her in her room to calm down, and then I turn right around to do the same for me. I LITERALLY HAVE TO PUT MYSELF IN A MOMMY TIMEOUT to calm down so I don’t overreact to the fact that my daughter is just being a toddler.
Keep in mind, over reacting and reacting are two very separate things.
So what do I do when I go to get my upset toddler out of time out? I get on her level, look her dead in the eyes, and tell her that I lover her no matter what. And then I proceed to tell her (calmly, might I add), that although I love her unconditionally, that does not mean that I will excuse her behavior. So then I remind her of what she did to deserve that time out in the first place, and then I make her repeat “I’m sorry mommy. I promise I won’t do ________ again. I love you”. And then I give her a hug and kiss, and we go on with our day.
Y’all, motherhood can be hard. I mean, it is such a beautiful journey and I love every second of it, but that does not mean it doesn’t kick my ass some days. Hang in there, you’re not alone. And I promise I am praying for you and your little family’s journey.